“Mom, do you think you might have an eating disorder?” one of my children, who shall go unnamed, asked with more than a little hesitation.
My immediate reaction was, “Wait, what???” followed by confusion, anger and defensiveness. I have a complicated relationship with...
What are the one or two questions you are asked most often? It’s worth slowing down to consider, because it says something about who you are, your priorities, and your deepest values. Be warned that this is not an exercise for those who are thin-skinned, take everything...
What does it mean, “to belong”? This is a question that comes up so often in my work with young adults, and I only wish I could help them understand and actually believe that the rest of us “adults” also struggle with this feeling.
Although intellectually most of...
On...
If you’re not yet familiar with the concept of Quarter Life Crisis, you’re not alone. It’s also likely that you are not a Millennial.
As a Professional Coach, a number of my clients are emerging adults. Generally between the ages of 18 and 25, they are facing some very real...
“I have no advice for you,” is my most often repeated reply to those who ask. But isn’t that what a Professional Life Coach is supposed to do? What do we get in return for our investment of time and energy working with a Coach, if not advice?
We are living...
I’m going to share a secret with you. Great Life Coaching is not about helping clients reach their goals. Setting goals and striving towards them is what I call the “chocolate-covered broccoli” of this work.
Of course, we get clarity on our goals and strive towards...
Last week’s blog, “Freedom As A Life Value”, included one tiny sentence that invited an inordinate number of questions from readers! In my list of 6 practices that have collectively allowed me to cultivate the freedom to give more time and attention to the activities and...
Last week’s blog, Find Your North Star, elicited a lot of responses and questions from my community. “How can I find out my top life values?”, was the question most asked. But I also was asked to share my top values and the impact of each in my life.
It takes time,...
Increasingly, more people are investing their resources in service of self-growth and potential. I’m talking about high achieving, by most counts, very successful folks, who are realizing that some critically important teachings were missing in their academic and family...
Shifts, shifts, shifts. The work of Professional Coaching is all about facilitating long-term sustainable shifts - which is entirely different than tricks, hacks and shortcuts.
I noticed a false and disheartening belief, (originally) in myself while being coached, and now, often...
“Courage” is a word I think about often. Maybe because it’s a word I hear several times a day in my coaching conversations.
It’s one of the unique aspects of this work - the work of creating change and transformation - that folks inevitably come to believe courage is a...
A great Coach isn’t smarter, more knowledgeable, or necessarily even more experienced than her greatest client.
A great Coach is deliberately on the road to mastering her craft and is in charge of the coaching process, not in control of the outcome. This is the truth that I had...
One of the most cherished 90 minutes of my week is when I get together with my group of soulful, bright, and growth-minded clients who are all under 40. We don’t have a curriculum or agenda, yet the learnings are abundant and the insights are life-changing.
The beauty of good...
Tomorrow at 5:00 am, I’ll be crying. I know this for sure. Tomorrow, in the hush of the early morning hour, a group of a few hundred regular people from all walks of life, cultures and countries will start a 100-mile journey on foot that will bring them face-to-face with every...
Perfect is a moving target, that’s if it’s even a thing. We are so quick and nonchalant in peppering our everyday conversations with the word “perfect”. That was a perfect meal. My son is a perfect student. I want the perfect relationship. Most of...
It’s graduation season and I’m sharing a blog I wrote last year when my own son was graduating high school. One year later, I asked him what 3 pieces of advice he would give his past self - his answers are at the bottom.
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My son is graduating from high...
One of my favorite coaches, authors, and all around humans, Jason Goldberg, says this about Professional Coaches, “We are in the PR business - permission and reminders!” Boy, is that true, and one reason I know I will have a Coach by my side for as long as the universe allows me!
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How often have you heard, “Life is short”?
Here’s the thing. If we don’t meet an untimely death, if we are fortunate enough to be given a life past our 80’s, then life is actually pretty long. Playing the long game is smart, but it is also the only game...
One of the main reasons people seek a Professional Life Coach, is to become better at time management. It seems like an unconquerable and multi-headed Hydra, whether you are a stay-at-home parent or a global CEO. Our desire to master time and experience a measure of ease and balance...
When did the word “change” become a negative thing? George Bernard Shaw famously said, “Those who cannot change their mind, cannot change anything.” Yet, so many of us fight, resist, and are adverse to change in ourselves and others.
Helping my clients...
One of the main goals that bring people to life coaching is the desire to “find balance” in their lives. Spoiler alert! As far as I have come to believe and understand, there is no such thing as living a balanced life, unless you are a robot or living a very boring life.
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The chance to live a second life is nothing less than a privilege. I don’t mean a second chapter, I mean, the opportunity to live a life that feels brand new.
I’m writing this blog on a day of the week where I meet with all 3 of my Mastermind and Coaching Groups. ...
I’m often asked how I became an ultrarunner, and the short answer is, “One step at a time”. The deeper answer has something to do with loss and humility.
I started running in my teens as a means to an end. Whether that end goal was to lose weight, produce positive...
