Ambition Vs. Greed leadership mindset

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When did ambition become a four letter word?

Think of the last time you used the word ā€œambitiousā€ to describe yourself or another person. Was it in an entirely positive context? Did it sound a little cringy even when it was meant to be a com...

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Why Are Old People Slow? leadership life skills mindset

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Why are old people slow? Because the fast ones are dead!

ā€” Anonymous wisdom

I wonā€™t get a tattoo. I have nothing against tattoos or people who have them, itā€™s just not my thing. But if it was, I know exactly what tattoo I would carry on my ...

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How to be a Fierce Giver? leadership life skills mindset

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In last weekā€™s article, I shared my learnings about making money. Iā€™m not a financial advisor or a money expert, so I chose to go upstream and address the three areas that I am an expert in:

  1. Shining a light on false and unhelpful beliefs.
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Make Belonging Happen! communication leadership mindset relationships

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Do you belong?

I donā€™t! At least not until fairly recently in my life.

You see, although I donā€™t present as one, I am naturally more of an introvert.

Additionally, for reasons mostly of my own creation and external circumstances like escap...

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4 Life Principles to Quit the Hustle leadership life skills mindset

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If you describe yourself as driven, high-achieving and ambitious, then youā€™ve probably drunk the Kool-Aid. If youā€™re in your late thirties or above (depending on when you started drinking full out) youā€™re...

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What is Fierce Presence? leadership life skills mindset

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When I ask potential clients for the reasons they want to be coached, almost always they want more of one or both of two things ā€” power and money.

Before you judge, ask yourself if power and money arenā€™t...

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Itā€™s Nice to be Kind! Or is it? leadership life skills mindset

Words are powerful and distinctions help us turn words into roadmaps for action.

If you donā€™t already have a bias for action, my work wonā€™t help you.

But if you are or want to become an action hero, youā€™ll want to become obsessed with words, their meanings and ensuing distinctions.

Distinctions a...

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Nine Superpowers of a Great Coach leadership

Iā€™m often asked to explain what makes for a ā€œgreatā€ Life Coach, as well as the reverse.

So here's my list of 9 things a great coach can help her clients with and 7 things she/he can leave to other professions.

  1. Helps you focus on the things that are right with you rather than the things you think
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Kintsugi and The Art of ā€œCreatingā€ Meaning from Lifeā€™s Challenges leadership life skills mindset

Last night, my daughter was having a tough time.

She was angry at herself and stuck in a cycle of rumination over a totally innocent mistake she had made.

In last weekā€™s blog I wrote about the value of reflection and how experience without reflection does not lead to the kind of learning that stic...

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How Often Do You Question Your Worth? leadership mindset

Questioning our worth is the unsolicited and unwelcome gift of adulthood.

No one ever looked at a newborn and gauged their worth. Children donā€™t question their worth unless they experience early life trauma. Even then, their experience is more one of confusion than unworthiness.

However, as adults...

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The Tyranny of "Should"-ing On Yourself leadership life skills mindset

If youā€™re reading this article, you are a grower ā€” a person who wants to live better, more skillfully and with more ease.

I want to make your goal of growing and expanding easier by sharing a single transformative and life changing practice.

If you commit to ONLY this one practice and no other, yo...

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Going With the Flow Vs. Being In Flow ā€” An Important Distinction leadership life skills mindset

Iā€™m often asked what books I recommend to clients.

The answer is easy because there are so many terrific books in the world of self growth and mastery.

But itā€™s not simple because each person is walking their own unique path and Iā€™m an expert at creating a bespoke coaching curriculum for each clie...

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Why Comparison is the Enemy of Creativity leadership life skills mindset

Itā€™s humbling to know and publicly admit that Iā€™ve never had an original idea, including the one Iā€™m going to share today.

Itā€™s also liberating beyond measure.

Most of us are raised to believe that unless we create something original, our offer is not valuable, or even worse, that we are plagiariz...

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When Do You Become An ā€˜Adultā€™? leadership life skills mindset

Last weekā€™s blog ā€œAre you an Amateur or a Pro?ā€ raised more questions than answers from my community.

In conversations with clients and readers who reached out, it became clear that every distinction deserves its own chapter.

I, of course, knew this when I was writing the article. But the purpose ...

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Are you an Amateur or a Pro? Here are 30 Differences to Help You Decideā€¦ leadership life skills mindset

My client, Sebastian, thinks heā€™s behind on ā€œlifeā€.

He thinks he missed the memo the rest of us received on how to live a happy life.

I know better.

Sebastian hasnā€™t fallen behind and there is no such memo.

Weā€™re all just trying to figure it out.

Unless weā€™re not. And there are a lot of people...

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Are You Making a Contract or a Covenant? leadership

ā€œI look forward to receiving a contract,ā€

My clients will often say.

My response is always the same and often surprising, if not downright confusing to them.

ā€œI donā€™t do contracts.ā€

Deep transformational life coaching is not a transaction, but rather a commitment of two peopleā€™s time, focus, and...

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Idea Doubt vs Identity Doubt leadership life skills mindset

Do you doubt yourself?

Do you then judge yourself for having doubts?

Howā€™s that working for you? (You can let me know the answer to this question after! ā€¦ so read on).

I know for sure that itā€™s not working for you because it sure as hell has never worked for me or any of my clients!

We tend to t...

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14 Challenges of Emerging Adults leadership life skills parenting

Most professional Coaches will tell their clients what to think.

The truth is we need to learn how to think.

Iā€™m an expert in helping emerging adults integrate their emotions, core values and actions in service of their life goals. Teaching them how to think is the skill and mindset shift that lea...

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"How Do You Define Success?" She Asked leadership life skills mindset

A dear and wise client of mine, Jo, sent me a text last night with a seemingly simple question.

She asked, ā€œHow do you define success?ā€

I read this text at the end of a day that felt like anything but successful! I had failed to finish a 50 mile race that I had trained for with great commitment an...

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5 Reasons for the Quarter Life Crisis coaching communication leadership

If youā€™re not yet familiar with the concept of Quarter Life Crisis, youā€™re not alone. Itā€™s also likely that you are not a Millennial.

As a Professional Coach, a number of my clients are emerging adults. Generally between the ages of 18 and 25, they are facing some very real challenges as they trans...

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Is Failure the Opposite of Success? communication leadership mindset

A dear and wise client of mine, Jo, sent me a text last night with a seemingly simple question.Ā  She asked, ā€œHow do you define success?ā€

I read this text at the end of a day that felt like anything but successful.Ā  I had failed to finish a 50-mile race that I had trained for with great commitment a...

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Niche Rhymes with Quiche coaching leadership

ā€œWhatā€™s your niche?ā€, is a question Iā€™m asked often by folks who are curious to learn more about coaching, and by other Coaches who are interested in working with me.

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My short and often unsatisfying response is, ā€œMy niche is humans.ā€

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Itā€™s not that I donā€™t understand the value of differentiat...

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Life Coaching is Not Hourly Work coaching communication leadership

Life Coaching continues to be mystifying to most.Ā  It certainly was to me, until the previous decade of my life. Ā Folks donā€™t understand the difference between Coaching and therapy, as well as the myriad of other methods that exist within the space of human potential.Ā  And because Coaching is a fast...

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Burn The Boats leadership mindset transformation

Itā€™s no exaggeration when I say that I work with some of the most committed and courageous human beings in this world.

Every day and in every area of their lives, my clients are pushing the limits of what is possible for them. They donā€™t just talk about it, read and forward inspirational quotes, an...

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